Hello lovelies! How's your week been? Hope it's been good. If it hasn't, brighten up; it's finally Friday.
Ehen... before I continue! Am I the only one that gets spam mails from Sir Gebriel to buy pills n creams for "my" penis enlargement? Lawd! It's annoying. I got six mails yesterday n I can't remember complaining to Sir Gebriel that "my penis" wasn't large enough.... worse of all, you can't cancel the subscription *whew*
Today, we'll be discussing a missing link, something that is very essential to our lives but somehow has gotten lost in the search of other things. I'm talking about FRIENDSHIPS .
Well, last weekend I hung out with big sister and hubby. Being the youngest around, I've been assigned the role of P.A, it pays well so I'm not complaining. Anyways, in the course of the outing, we visited an elderly couple. When we got there, I was regretting why I had gone with them at first, I mean, what could these elderly people have to say that won't be boring to my life? But DAMN!! Were they cool? They had all sorts of funny things to say and nothing was boring. Nothing at all.
While they discussed, they began to to talk about friendships in their days and friendships now. I got interested, and there came our post for today.
The example that struck me the most was wedding planning and friends. Our present day couple complained that while they planned their wedding, most of the people they'd usually hit their chests and call friends, were nowhere to be found, they weren't asking Jack to know how far planning had gone. The ones who could help out, like decorators, MUAs, photographers, had disappeared into thin air, and the ones who didn't, were simply claiming to be too busy to take them on, or they just wanted to cut their necks off with prices.
The elderly couple looked shocked as they related their ordeal. Immediately they stopped talking, the man said, "My best man bought my suit for our wedding day. My wife's brother supplied drinks for our wedding day. Three of my friends were our MCs, even though it was only one of them I asked. From the day we announced we were getting married, everybody we knew kept asking what we wanted them to do or what they could do to help out. It's not like we didn't have the money to foot the wedding, but that was the value of friendships." His wife continued, "My friend made me up, no charges. Everything I needed, I just had to say it, and someone had come through for me. You children of nowadays, only know how to spell, pronounce and write the words FRIENDS and FRIENDSHIPS, you people have no idea what those words actually mean."
I was nodding my head continously like an Agama lizard cos it was all true. The value and essence of friendship is lost in our lives these days.
The dictionary defines friendship as:
the state of being joined together by a common bond of affection, companionship
How then is there affection if the person who calls you friend needs you and you're not there? I'm not saying you should starve to feed our friends, and I'm not saying not to either: if the friend deserves it, why not?
But take this instance, my friend Moby is a MUA extraordinaire, and I'm getting married. I want her to make me up, of course she's going to charge me (that's if she doesn't do it free sef), but I think that if we are really friends, her little contribution to my wedding plans might just be her saying, "Oh babe! I charge 100k normally o, but because it's you, pay 70k. Plus I know this wonderful decorator, she'll give you a lower price if I introduce you to her." This might be her only way of proving that she's really my friend. To her, it might not have been anything.
|Moby remember this o|
I don't know how it is for you guys, but I think that friendship is just a word we throw around these days.
When was the last time you reached out to your friends? When was the last time you called, (not SMS, EMAIL, OR BBM CHAT) your friends? When was the last time your friend needed something you had the power to give and you came through for her? When was the last time you were true to the real definition of friendship and friends?
I'm going to leave you guys to think it out and lemme know your thoughts on this, but I'll drop this with you: "Friendship has no greater meaning than this: a friend coming through for a friend in time of need."
So my dear friends,till I see you next time, Stay Beautiful and STAY TRUE TO FRIENDSHIPS.