Wednesday, December 31, 2014


31st of December here we are..... Still breathing.... Mehnnn Baba God is too much sha.....
Well, I've cleaned my outer skin away and cleaned enough to last my grandchildren.... Even my fifth generations won't need to clean again for the one I've done today.....
Okay.... Today, we have a guest post from AmeComplique of My Thoughts to Screen. Before we proceed, I have to inform you that this niggie has succeeded in putting me in trouble... You'll understand as you read....

Tuesday, December 30, 2014


Hallos once again my lovelies..... My second post for the day hehehehe.... You know the year is ending and I need to let it all out na..... 
Meanwhile, is it just my house that they wait till 31st of December and then have one kind massive clean up? Like, right now I'm already anticipating how much work I'm going to do tomorrow.... Momc has opened one unused room for clean up tomorrow..... SOS


2014 is over
Holla my lovelies...... it's the 30th of December and I hope y'all are excited to end the year cos I am......
We’re about to draw the curtains on the year 2014 and I can’t believe it’s December yet sef. Am I the only one who thinks this year was too fast? As in ehnnnn….. one minute we were screaming Happy new year, the next minute here we are in the last week of the year. God has indeed been faithful.

Monday, December 29, 2014


Good morning my lovelies.... Welcome to the last week of 2014...... Thank God we mad it this far....
Welcome once again to Fiction Monday.... Today is episode 2 of TDDG.... So sit tight, read, comment, share and most importantly, The Best Nigerian Blogs & Chat
Continued from here

Saturday, December 27, 2014


Good morning lovelies....
A few weeks ago, I got to participate in a style challenge from Weddington Way.
The challenge was; If you are the Maid of Honour, and the bride asked you to create your festive New Year's Eve Bridesmaid Looks, how would you go about it?
I was sent a picture of 4 bridesmaid dresses and I picked the WW- Audrey Rental Black Tie Front dress.

Friday, December 26, 2014


We can travel round the world in one day cos we don't care..... Play our favorite Christmas songs and party like we don't care.... Merry Christmas Baby
Hello.... Hello.... Hello.... Eyin temi lori pinging..... How the Christmas season dey go na... How the rice, chicken, salad, bean, chips, pounded yam, ofe nsala and co. dey go? Omo, I am overfed... I was even sensing constipation early this morning but it didn't stop me from eating more sef......
Okay.... Today, our darling Duru Bubba is our Guest Blogger for the day..... If you've ever been on The Young and Confused Blog, you'll understand why I love this young man. He claims to be confused but whenever I read his posts, I relate to every word of his posts and he inspires me every day. So it's either he's not as confused as he claims, or I am very confused. I spoke to him for the first time yesterday and the guy is just as hyper as his posts. Did I mention he can wash for Africa?
Anyroads, sit tight, read, share, comment and most importantly, ENJOY.....

Thursday, December 25, 2014


This time last year, I had no idea who most of you were, but today, I'm glad to call all of you family......
So on behalf of myself and my entire family, I wish you a MERRY CHRISTMAS and I pray that the joy of the birth of Christ abide with you and yours, bringing you peace, prosperity and good tidings all year round......
N.B: I wanted to make a video of my sisters and I singing Jingle Bells but for some weird reasons the niggeresses refused to stay put so till another time.


Tuesday, December 23, 2014


Hello my lovely lovelies.... All my Oga Bosses and Madam Bossettes how una dey? How's xmas shopping and prepping going down? Anyone needs my help with spending THEIR money? Just holla o.....
Meanwhile, I hope you all like the Christmassy look the blog has taken..... I had to find more ways to wish you my lovely, darling readers a wonderful Christmas celebration.
Today, we'll continue our SERIES TUESDAY discussion on INSECURITY [click here if you missed the first part] and we'll be pointing out the signs of insecurity..... So sit tight, read, comment, share, learn, and most importantly, enjoy.

Monday, December 22, 2014


Yaaaaayyyyyy...... It's Christmas week everyone..... I hope y'all are in the Christmassy mood cos I am.... Apart from being overfed just after 12 hours at home, I'm just glad 2014 is about to end cos I can't wait to start reaping the goodies of 2015.
In the spirit of Christmas, I have a new Christmas jam toh badt... It's MERRY CHRISTMAS BABY BY GEOFFREY, TONYE, SHAYDEE& MAGNITO. 

Friday, December 19, 2014


Hallos loves.....  TGIFF.... 6 more days to Christmas mehnnnn.... I'm already salivating in advance for the kind food I wee eat this Christmas break.
Anyroad, we have a guest post from Buiti Christian of Fashionitaz by Buiti.... So sit still and enjoy

Hello its Friday!! TGIF * dancing*
I get so excited when it's Friday and I know you do also, knowing that it's weekend already lol....
This morning I was swapping my handbag for another that fits my outfit, so I poured out everything from my handbag on the bed and i found out i was carrying some "unusual items" in my handbag that some people wouldn't. I call them "unusual" because i know in my Sister's and my Friends' bag you wouldn't find any of these things in them.
For me, these items are necessary and they come as a savior in my times of need.
Below are the list of items i found in my bag;

Super Glue:
You might be wondering "why does she have this in her bag?"  Has your shoe ever embarrassed you in a  gathering or the your heels suddenly give way ? Well I have, and this has helped me out of those situations and made it look like nothing happened. Ever since then I have always kept one in my bag.

Pads/ Tampons:
Sometimes even when you do the maths for your menstrual cycle, the 'RED ROBOT'decides to show up a day or two earlier than you calculated. It is advisable to always carry a pad or tampon in your bag just so you prepare yourself for your 'monthly visitor'.

This is specially needed for those who have painful menstruation. Instead of looking all moody at work because of painful menstrual cramp this should help relieve the pain. As well as those headaches that come without warning too.

Needle and Thread/Pins:
I remember one day on my way to work, a stranger walked up to me telling me that i had a tear on my skirt., you can imagine the look i had on my face. I quickly got to the office, rushed to the toilet took my needle and thread and sew my skirt. Then again i thought, what if i didn't have this in my bag? hmmmmmm.... This can also help if your buttons pops out without warning.

Elastic Band:
I have well over 10 of them in my bag. I use it to tie stuff together and also to pack my hair when i forget my hair scrunchie at home.
I love Nigerian dishes yep! Because I am Nigerian and because no other food tastes better plus it's more nutritional than our others. Sometimes after eating a bowl of "fufu" you find out it leaves your fingers with its signature smell. Others might opt for a hand cream but i rather use a sanitizer just so my hands are thoroughly clean and smells fresh too.
Almost everyone has this in their hand bag. You know those times you eat some certain kind of food especially those Italian and Chinese spiced dishes (garlic) and it gives you an awful breath? lol it happens to everyone of us.  A good mint will do wonders in no time.You don't want your mouth smelling when you talking to someone hehehehe (sorry i have eaten my mint half way *covers face*)

There you have it!
What are those unusual things in your handbag?
Do you have any of the above items?

Thursday, December 18, 2014


Hallos my lovely lovelies..... my Oga Bosses and Madam Bossettes.... How market na? I hope y'all have started the Christmas shopping o cos I haven't. I'm still waiting for Santa Claus to drop the things I asked for on the first of December.
Anyroad, on Tuesday I was on Bella Naija for my weekly dose of Isio Knows Better, and this post was up,Some Little Humans. As usual, the post was entertaining but then a story there struck me and I decided to bring it here so we can talk about it;
Ehen, my people! I heard this gist o, over the weekend.
The gist was told of a little boy of six who was the son of a millionaire (wait, scratch that, billionaire… because millionaire is Naira is nothing so extraordinary these days).Okay, so this billionaire’s son was to be picked up from school, and the driver had turned up in the family’s Toyota Camry to pick up Nna Pikin. Only for the little one to look with disdain at the car the driver rolled up to his school in, and then he told his father’s driver that he would not be riding home in that car.He said in his baby voice please-please-what-is-this? Goan-bring-the-jeep-no-way-am-I-riding-in-that!Wait first, let me tell you what the father did after the driver called him to report the issue to him. The father said, “Oh, that’s alright. You come home immediately and get the Porsche Cayenne for him to ride in…”

Oh! Dear child of mine, if they born you well, dream of this. First of all, I know that no biological child of mine would dream of this, but if you do, this is what will happen in the dream. 

  1. I will pay the driver extra to just park and be looking at you. You go stand for that your mumu school until all your mates have gone home. You will stand there ehn, until you apologize to the driver and then you will know that origin and palmwine are different.
  2. Then when you get home, I will flog migwo vrendo into your body. Since you say you no wan get sense, I go beat sense put for your brain.
  3. For the next 2 weeks, you will go to school with public transport if your school doesn't have a bus.
But in all sincerity, I think there are more rude children everywhere than ever. I went to Ikeja City Mall 2 weeks ago and I witnessed a very funny fight between a mother and son. They were walking along the aisles, and the child was throwing virtually everything into their trolley. When the mother objected a fight started, the mother would pick out whatever he threw in and replace it on the counter, the boy would pick it up and throw it back in. It went on and on like this until the boy started to wail and hit his mum and then she gave in and started to pick the things from the counter. You know the irritating part of it all, the father was behind them all this while, and was just looking at them. See i was angryyyyyy. I was boiling. Who born me well to cry for public cos they didn't let me pick what I wanted. In fact, a trip to a supermarket was mini excursion, you have to be quiet and only touch what you're asked to touch.

This was the same thing I was crying about in my 3rd post on this blog here and it's getting more annoying by the day.
Anyroads, lovelies, what would you do if you were the parent of that child? Do you think parents are not doing enough or are the children just becoming more obstinate and rude on their own?

Wednesday, December 17, 2014


Hallos amigos..... Wataguan..... How's the Christmas prepping coming along? I'm doing my countdown to the 22nd when I shall land in Asaba..... Gawd!!!!!! I have missed home so much; I miss bickering with my dad, I miss teasing Mommy, I miss having people to boss around, I miss my sisters sooooo much *sniffs*
Anyroad, today, I'd like to talk about something that is trending everywhere; something virtually everybody is buying; every fashion store has it and every online fashion shop has plenty of it in stock. I'd be talking about the............ *drumrolls please*............

We call it CORSET, WAIST CLINCHER, etc. Wikipedia calls it TIGHT LACING and describes it as  the practice of wearing a tightly-laced corset to achieve cosmetic modifications to the figure and posture or to experience the sensation of bodily restriction.

The things a waist trainer or corset can do for you

I saw all of these things and I'm like DAMN so this is what all these girls are doing beneath their clothes and I'm struggling day in, day out with the squats and planks and crunches? Devil is a liar. After a while, I started to hear that if you wear these things for a prolonged period of time, your waist reduces and my mind is like HUHHHHHH? But the thing is, these things are fucking uncomfortable. I remember one time Momc was trying to form going back to the days when mama was a rolling stone, she bought one of these things and wore under her pant suits on a beautiful Monday morning, she looked smoking and I didn't miss the glint in my father's eyes. 2hrs later, she drove back home to change cos she was too uncomfortable to even sit still..... *rotfl*
Recently, I realized that vendors for these waist trainers have increased, apparently, their customers are increasing and I'm seeing pictures of normally shapeless girls looking like Kim K, so I said to myself, "there's gotta be something these vendors are not telling us" and I went for a research on the medical or health effects waist training could be posing and BAM! we have today's post.
Companies that sell waist cinchers tell us that they compress your core, ramp up perspiration, release toxins, and metabolize fat. The tight fit also restricts your abdomen, reducing your food intake during the day. They also assert that these garments will help you lose fat and inches from your waist. But below, are some of the things they didn't tell us;

  • If you want to lose body fat, you're going to do that through aerobic exercise and a sensible diet. You're not ever going to be able to target where you lose fat from.- Dr. Stephen D. Ball, PhD and Associate Professor of Nutrition and Exercise Physiology at the University of Missouri
  • There’s misinformation that body shape and body weight can be easily changeable to society’s standards. But we come in all different shapes and sizes and some of us aren't meant to have a tiny waist.- Leslie Heinberg, MD, Director of Behavioral Sciences for the Bariatric (weight loss) and Metabolic Institute at Cleveland Clinic.
  • Corsets do not cause you to lose weight in the midsection; they only cause a redistribution of fat and organs in the trunk.- Jan Schroeder, Ph.D. and Professor of Fitness in the Department of Kinesiology at Carlifornia- Long Beach.
  • Since waist cimchers are made of latex,they make you sweat.... a lot. When you sweat, you're shedding water weight and that's not fat. You may lose weight initially, but you would have to wear the thing forever in order to keep the weight off and keep the shape.-  Francine Delgado, New York City-based certified personal trainer.
  • Constricting the abdomen and torso could impair lung function by restricting the amount of space available for the lungs to expand into the abdomen and fill with air. When the lungs don't expand, they don't exchange oxygen or expel carbon dioxide, and the person is short of breath.- Dr. Katie Nason, Cardiothoracic surgeon at the University of Pittsburgh.
  • If you're wearing a waist trainer while exercising, this could be problematic when the demand for oxygen supply is higher than usual.- Dr. Jan Schroeder.
  • Restricting your lungs may lead to lungs disorder, and the lack of oxygenation may even contribute to a metabolic syndrome which actually results in weight gain.- Dr. Jan Schroeder.
  • While a quick fix to a flat tummy may be tempting, all the above suggest exercise, a healthy diet (and) or  cosmetic surgery under the guidance of a trained weight loss surgeon in order to perfect your silhouette. They also recommend leaving corsets where they belong: in the 19th century.
From the above, I'm sure you've seen a number of things your vendors won't tell you that are actually important to you. I'm not saying not to wear corsets, I'm just saying GO EASY.
Lemme gloat a little

HEHEHEHE.....*clears throat* So i was able to achieve this bod solely by crunches, squats and planks. I don't think I can ever stick to a diet sha especially if it doesn't contain famous amos cookies, coke, chocolate and ice cream. If I can do it, then so can you *winks*

Tuesday, December 16, 2014


Hello.... hello.... hello my lovely lovelies..... the aaaahhhhs in my shoki..... Welcome to SERIES TUESDAY.......
Today, we'll be discussing INSECURITY..... I did a brief post on Insecurity here..... Oya stop reading and gaan read it first then come back.....
Shey you're back eh, oya sit down, read, comment, share, learn, and most importantly enjoy.

From our previous discussions on jealousy, we were able to establish that jealousy more often times than not, is as a result of insecurity. Insecurity could be as a result of low self esteem, lack of confidence or sometimes, overconfidence.
For instance, you believe you’re the best at say customer service in your workplace, and then a newbie who probably is just as good as you or even better, joins the company and becomes everyone’s favorite. It is possible that he isn’t aware of the friction he might be causing, but you in all of your overconfidence will see him as a threat, and your insecurities of being overthrown make you act out, you could become a bully or begin to bad mouth him and a whole lot of other crazy things
We all deal with insecurity at some point or another; it’s a natural way to try and gauge our every actions. I would like us to all know that we all have insecurities. We all have areas in our lives in which we aren’t 100% confident or perfect, it’s part of our existence.
I, for example, have mad insecurities about my booblessness. It’s so bad that I walk around in my nighties with a bra on until I’m in my room, and by bra, I mean really really padded bra. I remember back then in secondary school when my mates started growing seeds in their breasts and I couldn’t feel anything in mine, I was as flat as a slate, then they moved on to wearing bras and I was stuck on jumpers. I became so embarrassed about it that I went and bought a bra with my pocket money and I’d stuff it with my socks before wearing it so that people will think I had boobs too. Another thing I’m probably insecure about would be my drawings….. Lawd Gawd….. those things are awful!!!! As in I can’t draw to save my own life. Recently on TTT, we had an art competition of the sort, I couldn’t participate cos I mean, my drawing is even worse than Tibs rendition of Amazing Grace.
In my opinion, insecurities are just pronouncements of fear. Fear of the judgments of others; fear of the arbitrary thoughts others might think and feel about us. Insecurity is simply our reaction to one of the only things we have absolutely no control over, and that is the way other people think about us and perceive us and judge us.  
So, for the purpose of this post, I went to my best friend Google to help me with the types of insecure people we have. He gave me these 5;
  •  Those who wrap themselves in positivity and pretend they have no insecurities: You see the thing about these people, they live in denial as we discussed here. Most of us do not want to be perceived as negative people but the truth is that, the moment you begin to lie to yourself about things that you ought not to, you have become a negative person. These people I’ll like to call PERMA-POSITIVE, have the “nothing can ever get me down cos I’m in charge of my destiny and my own happiness, therefore there’s no room for insecurities in my life” talk to give all the time. Take for example someone who is scared of heights and just because everybody is going skydiving, he quotes PHIL 4:13; I CAN DO ALL THINGS THROUGH CHRIST WHO STRENGHTENS ME and joins them then probably has a panic attack and something bad happens to him up there. That wasn’t an optimistic or positive person, he was just plain stupid. What happened to baby steps?
  • Those who verbally and constantly doubt themselves and put themselves down: these set of people are called NEGATIVITY. They’re the reasons the first set of people live in denial cos they don’t want to be like them. These set of people in their own eyes have no good attribute or talents or gifts or nothing, they can do no good in their own sights. Most of the time, they’re quiet until they’re called upon to perform a task, then they begin to tell the world all the things they suck at, all the talents they don’t seem to have and throw a grandiose pity party over it. We definitely have been around people like this at different points in our lives. Working with people like these is very tiring, cos you probably have to carry 90% of the workload, as well as try your possible best not to make them feel bad about themselves while you want to celebrate your achievements.
  •   Those who tackle their insecurities with humor: I pretty much fall into this category maybe cos I’m quite shameless and by the help of God I’ve come to realize it’s who I am. But I had a post on my insecurities and how I worked through them here, and I realized I became a comedian just to get people to back off from the things I worried about the most. Right now, I’m the first one to make a joke about how small my boobs are or how large my eyes are, so that you don’t bother thinking “oh…. I can make her sad by criticizing her drawings” or anything of the sort. It’s like when we tell Ada, ”Nigger, your nose is too large” and she be like, “it helps me smell bullshit from a long distance” now that’s humor.
  •   Those who make up all sorts of fabulous stories and tales about themselves that aren't true: these people are pathological liars, they don’t even know when these lies come out, all them LIANUS MBA. Bring up a story from your vacation in Cotonu, and they’ll spring up one fancy story about their trip to the Bahamas. I know a guy like this, the guy dey lie ehnnnnn, even his brothers used to tell us that if he greets us good morning, we have to check the clock or go outside to be sure that it’s actually morning before we can answer him. The incessant, unnecessary lying on its own is an insecurity sef without their knowledge.
  • Those who act out of insecurity to try and cover it up: these are the hardest type of insecure people to spot cos they sometimes don’t know it, and the ones who do will deny it immediately. Most jealous people that act on their jealousy fall under this category. People like this when in relationships, and then they suddenly have this nudge that their partner is cheating (and they always do have this nudge), act out on their insecurity by either starting a cold war with their partner, or calling them out, or the crazy ones that actually cause bodily harms to their partners or the suspected third party in their “nudges”. There’s this channel I stumbled on some time ago that shows crimes and how they’re solved, some of the crimes they called CRIMES OF PASSION or so, were perpertrated by people in this category. My friend who I described in my post on HeyNaija also falls in this category. be continued..............
So my lovelies, what are your insecurities? How have you been able to work through them so far? 

Till the next time I see you, Stay Handsome and Beautiful

Monday, December 15, 2014


My people hello...... How did the weekend go? I hope y'all had madt fun o.... I'm waiting for the pictures o....... Meanwhile I have a new favourite song *hehehehe* It's Blank Space by Taylor Swift. 
 Welcome to the 51st week of 2014..... I pray that this penultimate week of the year brings everything you've been asking God for from the first day of the year.... Amen.
Okay *rubs hands* today, I want to introduce a new Web Series here.... It's my own novelette (I think I can call it that), and we would be running it for the next 3months I think..... so don't miss any episode......

The Diary of a Daddy's Girl, is a story following the life of Shontelle Kamsiyiochukwu Eze; her work, her relationships and her entity....... It premieres next week Monday and has 12 episodes for this season, there might be a continuation or something (abeg i don't know again) but until then stay tuned to this "station"


Friday, December 12, 2014

I couldn't think of a proper title for this post so I'm just going to leave that title bar blank. I want to share a lil story with you guys, STORY, STORY.........
For a while, I've known that I would like to write for people. I've always dreamed of having BellaNaija or some big sites publish my writeups. But when I started Blogging in May, someone suggested I submitted my writings to Bella Naija and I cringed. I couldn't explain why I cringed to them, but deep down, I wasn't sure I could cope with the pressure of people scrutinizing my work, and the pressure of deadlines, so I dismissed it.
Sometime in November, I saw an opening for a Blogger/ Social Media Expert and I was like "of course I can do this" as well as run my blog and work comfortably. 3 days later, they called me for a phone interview which went well, we discussed pay n all and I was optimistic I could make it work. About a week later, they called me back and they wanted me to start the job. When they started listing my job descriptions, I just kept giving excuses why i couldn't do some things. Fortunately for me, the guy was very understanding and that's how I was able to change my job description to suit my niche. Almost immediately, I got a mail and in it was my contract and employment letter, as I opened the mail, I felt my writing spirit fly off and I just assumed it was the excitement of getting what I always dreamed of.
By the next day, I couldn't even put 2 creative sentences together, when I tried to force it and I wrote whatever it was I wrote, my friend Ada just laughed after reading it and said, "Babe, which person work you go copy? It doesn't look like what you'll write while you're sleeping sef." so I decided to push writing to the next day. I waited for a week to finally send the acceptance mail, and they needed me to do 2 reality posts a day. That didn't sound so difficult after all, but I still couldn't find anything creative inside of me. After two days, I called my employers and I told them I wanted to quit; thank God it was over the phone cos I'm pretty sure they'd look at me weirdly. One of them then called me back and asked why I wanted to quit, and I came clean to him. 
The pressure was killing my creativity. I wanted to be able to write freely without fear of missing a deadline or not meeting an editor's requirements. He said he understood and hung up. A while later he called back and asked if I would like to work freelance with them, like once a week, whatever I wanted and I didn't have a deadline; I was like "Hell yeah" and immediately I was feeling like I could conquer the world once again. I picked my pen and everything was flowing unbarred.
On Monday, I got a mail that they had published my first freelance post here;


Thursday, December 11, 2014


Good morning lovelies...... Happy Thursday.... I hope y'all are ready to go out and kick ass in whatever you do today? 
Today I'm doing a borrowed post from our very own Lagos Drama Queen, Moby.... You see, most times I assume I'm the craziest kid around, but whenever I read something from Moby, I just realize that Yaba Left probably lost a patient...... The girl is quite looney and the post I'm going to share with you will prove that to you....

*steps in with huge baggie pants, huge Tee, timberland boots, huge blings, dark frames and my face cap turned backwards*** #Gangstermodeactivated.....
Sup yo!

Sup fam!...
So I know how dramatic I can be with my thoughts sometimes. Do not...I repeat do not shake your head for me at any point on this post...( I am already shaking my head for myself in advance). 

My thoughts just go crazy on me sometimes and I'm scared for it. So some days ago, I was feeling really down....I'm sure you guys are used to my down-days. My head was spinning and everything was pissing me off.. Le boo tried telling me jokes but they only made me sicker and madder. Just want to say to Leboo 'those jokes were actually very funny especially the one where you said we ladies think whoever men chat with has to be a girl and why she would be laughing at every of your jokes'...I really was listening..*kiss*. These things happen to me when I'm about to see my red signal...*CUT*... Why do we ladies have to go through 5 days of every month passing out blood that we are not even sure we have enough of?....if only guys can also see their period...on a second thought, that would be very disgusting and so I end that talk at this point *lips sealed*. Hehe. 

So while I was wallowing in self pity and so much frustration, my mood kept on getting worse. I had told Tito earlier I was hungry, I looked at him and this boy was contemplating what to seriously!. He put on a black vest that always make him look like a bouncer and he was asking if it looked nice and as I was about to say something sarcastic a thought just came, how about if I had the chance to be a boy for a day, what will I do? I'm sure you all want to know what I'll do.

 So I took a picture of me sometime ago wearing this funny makeup I did. Please do not laugh at me okay....

Here we go *rubs palm together* silly thoughts....*covers face*

First, I would flick my balls so hard just to see how painful it really is..I would do ‘jangilova epomoto' with it...I would play table tennis with it if possible. I mean all these boys be lying to us all the time about how painful a strike down there can be... so I want to feel it myself but if it is as painful as they say it is, I would lie down and try not to cry....haha. Crying is not manly shey?

Then I will sing in the shower trying to hit those baritone notes I never could. I really want to feel that adrenaline rush Leboo feels when he's trying to sound like John Legend in the shower *I must say doesn't sound close to John Legend's clone*...I love you huni *mwaaahhh*

Yes....Is there anything called a blue-ball? I want to find out myself. Do you know how many times a guy has told me this blue ball story and I believed. Who doesn't know what a blue ball is? Well it's an expression guys use a lot to describe some sort of pain they experience when they are so close to having sex and then you cut them short. I want to experience the blue ball(s)...hehehe

I would spend my day putting my new penis into as many things as I can. Let's see what it's like to jack off with mayo, into some pizza dough, how far I can make it squirt when I cum and every other trick possible. I would also definitely try to bang some of my girlfriends to see what it's like from a guy's perspective. I know that's a bad thought but I should definitely try it after all. LMAO..This is stupid aswear. I am shaking my head for me at this point.

Later at night I would go to a bar and drink to stupor then have some guy talk. I'll make sure all the guys talk about girls and maybe I can learn a thing or two from them. Who knows?

Yes that's some random thought... What would you do if you are given a chance to be the opposite sex for a day? I know some people would freak out. A guy friend of mine just said he would touch his breast all day. Like he would just stay at home, stand in front of his mirror and squeeze his breast. He said he wants to know what we ladies like about it...hehe. 

Well, I have tried ....I've said a whole lot of silly it's your turn....Let's read from you. What would you do if you were given the chance to be the opposite sex for a day?...I'm very eager to read comments on this one..LOL


ROTFL!!!!!! You see what I was saying? Well, if I were a boy for a day;
  1. I'll sag my trousers very very low..... I have to find out what joy these boys derive from sagging.
  2. I'll sleep naked and let everything hang lose, and by hanging lose, you know what I'm talking about na *winks*
  3. I'm going to drink one full bottle of alomo and see what effect it has on my dick..... These guys are always making so much noise about it and their libido.
  4. I think I may be a bisexual boy or just plain gay.... I love the sausages too much to abandon them for donoughts *shines teeth*
  5. I'm going to toast any fine girl with big ynash I see for that day.
So my lovely lovelies, what will you do if you had the opportunity to be the opposite sex for a day..... I can't wait to see your comments *claps hands in glee*

Stay Beautiful& Handsome

Wednesday, December 10, 2014


Hello my loves.... sorry I'm posting this late o... I didn't plan to do any post today but I have an important announcement that couldn't wait till morning!!! No! I'm not pregnant neither am I getting married. But it's THE NIGERIAN FASHION BLOGGERS CHRISTMAS YARD SALE!!!!!! It's a first of it's kind too...

The first Nigerian Fashion Bloggers Yard Sale 
holds this Saturday, 13th December. We're selling a ton of treasures and amazing stuff! 11am is when it opens and everyone is invited. 
Come shop from the closets of some of your favourite Nigerian Bloggers like Cassandra Ikegbune, Mide Coker, Deola Adebiyi, Tuke Morgan, Ozinna to mention a few.
There'll be a lot of great pieces, from clothes to accessories and everything you imagine is contained in a fashion blogger's wardrobe. No multiple sizes or colours though,  as there would
 mostly be just one of each piece. 

Remember, the yard sale starts at 11:30 am on the dot. Early birds get the best bargains.

Did we mention everything is N2000 and below?
It's like Black Friday in December!


I don't intend to miss this for any reason, and I don't expect anyone to.... See y'all at the Sale *shines teeth*


Tuesday, December 09, 2014


Hello lovelies.... Good evening.... I'm sorry to be bringing the concluding part of our guest post on Jealousy [click here if you missed the first part]  na network and light palaver cause am o.


Jealousy among siblings is somewhat related to siblings rivalry and this is mostly fueled by parents.
When parents begin to compare children, resentment creeps in too, when parents also place expectations on children and one meets the expectations while the other doesn't, jealousy creeps in and in extreme cases can tear families apart.

These 11 steps from wikihow can help you handle jealousy;
1. Understand the emotion of jealousy;
 A combination of fear and anger, jealousy is fed by the fear of losing someone (or a cherished situation/state of affairs) and anger that someone else is "moving in" on the person or situation that is of value to you personally. It's a destructive and ignoble emotion and nothing good can come of it, so recognition of its occurrence is your number one self-defense.
2. Deconstruct why you feel jealous in the first place;
 From a place of self-compassion, try to figure out why you're feeling jealous. Often jealousy is about reliving an experience of failure from the past that continues to inform your level of trust (or lack thereof) toward people in the present, even though current conditions may be vastly different.
 Other motivators for feeling jealous include: a high level of insecurity, anger toward yourself and fear of abandonment or vulnerability. If you're honest with yourself, you will realize that feeling jealous often rears its head at the same time you feel threatened, afraid of being abandoned or when you feel you just cannot trust the other person, no matter how little basis your lack of trust has. However, this shouldn't be about finding nothing but fault with yourself––being compassionate about your self-assessment is an essential part of staying objective about the green eyed monster.
3. Take a good look at the effect your jealous behavior has on other people;
 It can be easy to justify your suspicious mind by viewing the defensive responses of others as confirmation of your suspicions. However, defensiveness is a natural response to people who are placed under pressure to justify their actions, whereabouts and thoughts all of the time––being constantly questioned as to what you're doing, where you're going and where you've been is tiring, disparaging and quickly demoralizing. People feeling squeezed by a jealous line of questioning and assumptions will also feel undermined, badgered and frustrated. Reactions that display impatience, frustration, irritation and anger are not confirmations of guilt––they are signs that the person has reached the end of a tether and is defending his or her genuine, non-suspicious actions.
If you suddenly decide that your friend or lover is incapable of fending off the advances of a new friend or lover, then you have placed that person in a really insidious position of both having to reassure you at the same time as realizing that the lack of trust you have in him or her places a wedge in the relationship that wasn't there previously. Put yourself into his or her shoes––how would you feel if badgered in this fashion?
4. Tackle your feelings now;
 Learn to question your jealousy every time that it emerges. For example, say to yourself: "Is this jealousy because I feel afraid or angry? Why am I feeling fear or anger here?" When you begin to question what makes you jealous in the moment, you can begin to take positive steps to manage the feelings constructively, without the cloud of negative emotion that typically accompanies jealousy. Some questions to ask yourself include:
"Why am I jealous over this?"
"What is making me jealous?"
" What am I trying to keep?"
"Why do I feel threatened?"
5.  Change any false beliefs that might be fueling your jealousy;
 There are often false, baseless beliefs that underlie reactions of jealousy. If you examine the belief, you can often eliminate the jealousy. Some common underlying beliefs without basis include “Everyone is out to get my money” or “If this person leaves me, I won't have any friends.” In both cases, these are generalizations that could never be applied to every person you know or meet. In fact, these are preemptive defenses against the potential of something bad happening to you. Beliefs are changeable by choice. If you change your belief, you change the way you feel. Choose to tell yourself a belief that is nurturing and supportive, and you'll feel better. If you think it's better to think negatively, ask yourself what possible benefit that brings you over thinking more healthily––thoughts create emotions and you have the choice to make the thoughts negative or positive. When you begin taking steps to creating a happy and fulfilling life for yourself, you will find the anger and the fear easier to manage, removing the fuel for the jealous feelings.
Be aware that your thoughts can happen so quickly that you don't even realize consciously that you've had a negative thought. Developing greater awareness of your thoughts and what triggers them is a large part of tackling the problem.
6. Take notice of which part of your body is affected;
 Fear is often felt as a dropping or clutching sensation in your stomach, while anger often manifests itself as a burning, tight sensation in your shoulders and jaw. As well, it's not unusual to feel both fear and anger at the same time, bringing forth all of the bodily impacts mentioned. Noticing bodily sensations can be a telltale signal for you to start changing how you're thinking and to question the jealous feelings.
7. Apologize;
 Before doing anything else, make the other person feel better if you've gone far enough to expose your jealous emotions around him or her. Realize that by not apologizing, you are in actual effect seeking to punish the other person for your feelings. The act of apologizing in itself shouldn't be lengthy or complicated––the fact that you do apologize will help begin to break the cycle. Simply make a conscious decision to stop indulging in suspicions and say to the other person something like: "I'm sorry for asking those questions of you. I've had some silly jealous thoughts that have caused me to imagine what isn't there." This will often be sufficient to give both of you the space to discuss what has just taken place––recognition of your poor behavior and the need to be more open together about what you're going through.
8. Communicate your feelings and dialog about your jealousy problem together;
 Sharing your true feelings with the affected person and talking it through can be a very cathartic and constructive way to start mending the damage done. It can also be a way of creating an ally, someone who will feel able to point out when you make unreasonable jealous demands on him or her without expecting comeback. When talking through what you've been feeling, take heed of the following:
Avoid passing on blame to the other person. His or her behavior is not the cause of your feelings––you are responsible for your feelings.
Stick to "I" statements rather than saying anything that smacks of "you make me feel…". Instead of saying, "You shouldn't have done that," say, "I felt terrible when that incident happened."
Be aware that how you perceive situations may be completely at odds with how the other person saw them. Stay as open-minded as possible, even though this will probably mean that you sometimes feel extremely defensive. Do your best to keep quiet and listen rather than constantly butting in with justifications.
Above all, be compassionate, both for yourself and for the person you've been offloading your jealousy onto. Recognize the harm you've caused, the harm you've suffered and work with it to find better ways forward. Be passionate about your desire to improve your feelings and try to outgrow jealousy.
In most cases, this won't be a one-off conversation. You'll need to agree to keep coming back to talking any time the green eyed monster gets out of hand again.
9. Bear in mind at all times that feelings of jealousy are about you, not about the other person;
 Any sense that things are out of control means that you need to transfer the intensity of what you're feeling into something constructive rather than continuing to over-analyze the relationship (or situation). For example, get involved in a sport, some exercise, a hobby or participating in volunteer work. Do something that takes you out of yourself and causes you to focus beyond the relationship or situation and gives you an outlet for your emotions that is healthier than ruminating and raising suspicions.All this doesn't mean escaping from putting two and two together.
10. Learn from your jealousy;
 The ignoble, negative emotions have a role in our lives, one of teaching each of us how to be a better person for struggling and overcoming them. They have a place, just not one that controls you and excuses poor behavior. Some of the things jealousy might be teaching you include:
You are frightened when a relationship is new and still has some way to go before it feels secure. This is a commonplace feeling in young relationships for many people, and both possessiveness as well as sense of vulnerability at getting close to someone, can drive feelings of jealousy.( ...and we're so fond of seducing people; testing our power can become a very harming pass time )
You're afraid someone else will take your job, salary, role, position, and so forth. In this case, it's probable that you're afraid of financial insecurity (survival instinct) or you feel that you're an impostor in your role, the latter an all-too-commonly held false belief in many high-achieving people in the workforce. Remember that you wouldn't have been given the role or position unless other people felt you had earned it.( don't be your worst and closest enemy) Try living up to that trust in you rather than seeing demons hovering in every corner.
You feel your lover has a roving eye. In romantic relationships, both men and women continue to check out other men and women. It's biologically driven and it's natural. However, in the majority of cases, it does not mean that the person wants to leave the relationship he or she is in with you. It is, for most people, about appreciating the human form and not about a roaming eye. This misunderstanding has long created unnecessary jealousy as long as relationships have existed; it can help to accept that it's okay for a person in a committed relationship to look, provided there's no touch!
You listen to people who say mean or exaggerated things and let this direct your emotions. Take a stand ! Be true to yourself and those you love ! All too common, many people are easily convinced by the village gossip because it sounds so compelling and seems like it must be right. The reality is that it rarely is right and it's always far better to not listen to people who chatter away making things up as they go. Let these people go get jobs as celebrity gossip journalists while you get on with facing the facts instead.
You dislike looking within yourself and working through difficult emotions. It's typical to externalize painful emotions, to try and make them someone else's problem than to do the hard work of facing them and dealing with them internally. Jealousy is painful but by facing it, you can repair much internal damage that ultimately makes your relationships stronger and more enduring.
11. Trust yourself;
 Trust begins at home, with yourself. If you learn to trust yourself, you can radiate this trust onto others. Begin by making a list of all your good points. Stick this list up somewhere that you can see it regularly, to remind yourself that you're fully equipped with great talent, skills and features already. Moreover, only compare yourself to yourself, always seeking to outdo your last achievement without worrying what other people are doing. Remind yourself daily through a journal, affirmations or other effective way that you have what it takes, like the song goes, to be fulfilled in life. Practicing healthy thinking must be a daily, recurring action––that's why it involves constant practice. In time, the healthier thinking processes will take over the destructive ones and help you to become a whole person, resilient, capable and not prone to jealous thoughts.
Work on relevant aspects of your self esteem if you feel it's lacking. When you have more confidence in yourself, you'll be less likely to feel jealous.
Read some self-help books on jealousy, you'll feel you're getting your grips on that mean, insidious emotion.

Jealousy is not the same thing as love. Sometimes, people think that by feeling jealous about someone, they are loving him or her by being possessive or wanting ownership over the person. Jealousy is not love; it’s the fear and anger of losing out or being abandoned.

So with that lovelies, we've come to the end of our discussion on Jealousy.... Thank you Amaka for the enlightenment.....
Duru, Moby, Ame, Buiti, Obiamaka n co. I'm still waiting for your guest posts o.....

Till the next time I see you again, Stay Beautiful and Handsome

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