I promised y’all that I would only write
what I know or I’m conscious of, and I’m pretty sure I’ve kept that promise
well enough.
Well, for Series Tuesday we’re launching a
discussion series on ABUSE because it’s the most discussed issue and yet it
still remains a hazard.
Abuse is something majority of us do not give second thoughts to, probably cos they haven’t been victims, or because they are unaware of what abuse really is. So I took my time to read up, do a lot of researches on the matter so I won’t stop halfway. Peradventure you come across some signs that you’ve noticed in a friend, lover, family member, or you noticed in someone in a relationship with your friend, I think you should take note of the things we would talk about here so you can bring it to their notices. So LEGGO……
Abuse is something majority of us do not give second thoughts to, probably cos they haven’t been victims, or because they are unaware of what abuse really is. So I took my time to read up, do a lot of researches on the matter so I won’t stop halfway. Peradventure you come across some signs that you’ve noticed in a friend, lover, family member, or you noticed in someone in a relationship with your friend, I think you should take note of the things we would talk about here so you can bring it to their notices. So LEGGO……
Abuse is defined as any action that
intentionally harms or injures another person. Abuse also encompasses
inappropriate use of any substance, especially those that alter consciousness
.e.g. alcohol, cocaine, etc. Abuse can
be physical, sexual, emotional, verbal, or a combination of any or all of these
as well as neglect.
Abuse in relationships occurs when either
of the partners tries to dominate or control the other person by use of abusive
and/or coercive behaviours. Abuse in relationships can be sexual, physical,
emotional, or financial. If not contained early enough, abuse in relationships
will tend to escalate over time. If you’re sitting there, thinking that
physical abuse is the only thing that can get you thinking about your
relationship, then you’re wrong. Rome was not built in a day, so your partner
will not control or dominate you in a day. Abuse is a process and it all starts
with small details, so if you don’t stand up for yourself when the abuse is in
small details, then it will get worse and it might be too late before you
realize that the abuse is now at a dangerous level.
When you’re in an abusive relationship, the
most common thing that you’ll start hoping for is that things will get
better in the future. This is especially
true when you think you really love the abusive partner. You should however
realize that you deserve to be loved and treated with respect and not
emotionally or physically harmed. It is true you love him/her but that does not
mean you allow yourself be constantly degraded and belittled.
You’ve got to love yourself first before
you love someone else; you have to love yourself enough for you to understand
when someone loves you. For the sake of relationships, it is important to tell
your partner to stop with the abuse, if he/she doesn’t change, then the best
option on the table is to terminate the relationship.
Remember one man’s poison is another man’s
treasure, there’s someone out ther dying to have you and treat you with the
respect you deserve. If you just stick around when you’re being abused, you are
definitely encouraging your partner to continue with the abuse.
N.B: By relationships, I mean parent-child,
siblings and friendships, not necessarily intimate relationships, although it
applies in all cases
So my lovelies, we’ll call it a post at
this point.... From next week, we'll begin to discuss the various forms of abuse, especially the ones we've neglected or not taken note of......
P.S: Please my lovelies.... for the purpose of these series, I'd ask that if you've been through any form of abuse at any point in your life please don't hesitate to share your experiences and how you broke free..... For privacy sakes, you could send in a mail to esthernwaomu@gmail.com or make use of the contact form below and I'll post your story here as anonymous...... we all need to learn. Thank you
P.P.S: We're almost at our 100th post and I thought I'd do something different, but it has to be what you people decide...... So drop your comments and let me know what you would want me to do for our 100th post. By our 99th post, I'd list the suggestions I've gotten and let you know which I'd be doing......
P.P.S: We're almost at our 100th post and I thought I'd do something different, but it has to be what you people decide...... So drop your comments and let me know what you would want me to do for our 100th post. By our 99th post, I'd list the suggestions I've gotten and let you know which I'd be doing......
Till I see you again.... Stay Beautiful, Handsome and SAY NO TO ABUSE
PEACE, LOVE& CHOCOLATES
XOXO
I will want a give away hehhehhehhe.. just joking
ReplyDeleteDo a post telling us about yourself like random things we don't know about you.
Better still do a fashion post joo lol
fashionitazbybuiti.blogspot.com
Erhmmmm... for your 100th post, please do a give away but call me 1st so I can get here before anybody and win the giveaway...hehehe.
ReplyDeleteTo the topic, everyone has been through some sort of abuse at some point...verbal, physical and even emotional. The emotional abuse I went through, I don't pray it for my worst enemy but thank God for God sha. Its not easy to move on but its worth it..
I have been in one abusive relationship before,it wasn't easy,but I had to just let go even when I let go,he threatened my life eehn!thank God for God's intervention. If not I would have been a forgotten issue.
ReplyDeleteEyaaaaa thank God that abusive relationship ended nne - I can imagine!
DeleteNice one Estelle
ReplyDelete**waves** Hiya mami....Its been a while eh...How are you doing mami...Erhmmm...in a very weird way, I think every lady has been abused in some way...I have been physically, verbally, emotionally and mentally abused and I can tell you that the worst is the mental abuse. There is nothing worse than your own mind fucking with you. It is messy and scary. I tell everyone I know this - Once you feel abused in the least way, CORRECT IT IMMEDIATELY!!! Don't give out the impression that it is okay cuz the moment you do, It will become a norm for the person abusing you and for you too as the person being abused....
ReplyDeleteDo a give away babes... Uh, abuse?? Hmmmm. It is well
ReplyDeleteHiya dearie, I nominated you for the versatile award, here's the link to my blog
ReplyDeleteThis comment has been removed by the author.
ReplyDeleteAbuse is a very sensitive matter treated in an insensitive manner in this part of the world. I hope this post gives those who are been abused in their relationships the confidence to voice out.
ReplyDelete#Mannie